To play a role in Andrea's goal to save the world we, like others who have traveled here today, have become vocal advocates for the cause, both personally and through the Coalition's Family Action Council. Each member of the Council has chosen a unique path of activism…ours has evolved over the year and a half since Annie's death. What began as a healing talk requested by Andrea's friends and colleagues at Pitzer College has grown, by word of mouth, to the point that it now appears to have a life of its own. We have been invited to share Andrea's story at universities and conferences across the nation. I read selected pieces from Andrea's journals and poetry and from them Doris teaches. Due to the number of students who wait to speak with us after our talks and the e-mails received through our web site, we now sincerely believe that eating disorders are a silent epidemic among our youth.
Andrea's message speaks to the incredible complexity of Eating Disorders. Although many factors are contributors to their development: cultural, genetics, individual temperament, and familial issues, our talk strongly addresses the media's influence as well as our culture's normalization of diets and body dissatisfaction.
By speaking out we hope to encourage sufferers and families to expose and expunge the secrets and shame so common to this illness. We drive home the point that Eating Disorders are deadly. They can kill, and kill quickly, even when one looks and feels fine.
Six months after Andrea's death, we visited the National Institute of Mental Health in Bethesda, MD where we met with the head of the Eating Disorders portfolio. We arranged the meeting to advocate for increased funding and a focus of research on Prevention. While there, we were quoted the small number of death statistics, which it was felt helped place Eating Disorders lower on their list of priorities.
We have discovered that the statistics do not reflect reality. Stats come from death certificates. Many who die from Eating Disorders have certificates that list causes other than Anorexia or Bulimia. An Eating Disorder was not listed on our daughter's death certificate; therefore she is one of the many who has not been counted among the numbers that influence funding.
In doing a bit of personal research and calling coroners in various counties on the east and west coasts, we have discovered differences in interpretation of the guidelines regulating what can or should be listed as causes of death.
These guidelines must be standardized and clarified nationwide so their application can be consistent and truly reflective of the reality of the number of lives being lost to Eating Disorders.
As Doris shared at the beginning of our talk, there was a time during Andrea's birth when Doris had to "sit with the pain." We are again in pain. But this time we will not sit. We will push. Push, along with all the other devoted people in this room, because we cannot afford to sit quietly by and watch others lose their children to this complicated, misunderstood and devastating disorder. We must educate so that there is understanding without judgment. With this understanding will come the opportunity for shifted paradigms, forward movement, and much-needed change. We must take that opportunity now, because we cannot afford to lose any more promising futures.
Let me close with Andrea's words. These are taken from the last stanza of a poem she wrote just six months before her death, expressing the perplexities and joy inherent in the Journey of her life:
Look carefully,
Judge kindly,
Read under and between lines.
The Journey is never so clear as the Destination,
And the telling is more confusing still.